I used to be convinced I’d find myself.
That through travel, reading, and school, one day I’d stumble upon my ‘calling.’
And of course, I never did.
By the time I was 19, I felt more lost and confused than ever.
I had no idea who I was.
I had no purpose.
And so I became paralyzed by the lack of direction.
It wasn’t until I stumbled on this quote by Neil Degrasse Tyson that I understood why:
“The problem, often not discovered until late in life, is that when you look for things in life like love, meaning, motivation, it implies they are sitting behind a tree or under a rock. The most successful people in life recognize, that in life they create their own love, they manufacture their own meaning, they generate their own motivation.”
Once I read that, life became a blank slate.
Like a video game, I could build my character into anything I wanted.
So I did two things:
1. I started to read.
I needed to figure out what was available. I devoured biographies of entrepreneurs, politicians, philanthropists, philosophers and athletes to pick out what kind of life would thrill me most.
2. I started to take action.
If it sounded exciting, I tried it out. I volunteered in a political party and hated it, took debate, hated it. Started a business, and loved it. Boom. I’ll be an entrepreneur. Five failed start-ups later, I co-created Yes Theory.
Before I knew it, I was forming myself into someone I loved and respected.
I was no longer waiting on fate.
As Will Smith said, “There’s a redemptive power that making a choice has. Rather than feeling like you’re at effect to all the things that are happening. Make a choice. Just decide. What it’s gonna be, who you’re gonna be, how you’re gonna do it. Just decide. And from that point, the universe will get out of your way.”
Life is a buffet of choices.
Find out what those choices are.
Try them out.
Stick with the ones you like.
And before you know it, you’ve created a person you love.